Yes i know i want it all. i want to give up dope without going to jail, with no pain, with no loss of any assets, without losing the relationship (that sure was dope-dependent for 6 years) but why can't I?. is there some immutable rule of the universe that says that I have to lose to gain? (Sounds like 3rd law of thermodynamics, every action has an equal and opposite reaction). but there's no energy loss, no matter exchange here. so why do i have to lose?